I was using the word argument to mean a disagreement in which both parties make statements to support their position and contradict the opposing party's statements. Perhaps a better word would be debate. We were having a debate, according to the definition I've just given you.
I don't believe it is bad manners to have a debate with someone in their journal so long as it remains civil. I'm not offended by that.
In my experience, "lets agree to disagree" isn't a phrase to be used lightly. It's a way of saying "nothing you say will convince me, and nothing I say will convince you, so we should stop talking." Or in other words, "I don't want to listen to your position anymore, and you don't want to listen to my position anymore, so let's move on."
But instead of moving on, you continued to address the subject. You went on to state that you had the artistic authority ("I look at the photos as a photographer") to make an interpretation of the photographs that contradicted my interpretation ("the woman [is] in the dominant position in two of the three photos").
If you tell the other party you're unwilling to listen to their side of the debate, it's only fair that you keep quiet about your own.
So that's why I was offended. But I accept your apology.
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Date: 2009-10-22 12:13 am (UTC)I don't believe it is bad manners to have a debate with someone in their journal so long as it remains civil. I'm not offended by that.
In my experience, "lets agree to disagree" isn't a phrase to be used lightly. It's a way of saying "nothing you say will convince me, and nothing I say will convince you, so we should stop talking." Or in other words, "I don't want to listen to your position anymore, and you don't want to listen to my position anymore, so let's move on."
But instead of moving on, you continued to address the subject. You went on to state that you had the artistic authority ("I look at the photos as a photographer") to make an interpretation of the photographs that contradicted my interpretation ("the woman [is] in the dominant position in two of the three photos").
If you tell the other party you're unwilling to listen to their side of the debate, it's only fair that you keep quiet about your own.
So that's why I was offended. But I accept your apology.